But at this point, if shit does happen, it will be insignificant, as it will be coming from <0.1% of men. Such a minority can’t be used to justify poor treatment of the entire male population. I really question how much fear is justified. When feelings are based on irrational beliefs, they should be overridden by logic, not used to justify cowardly behavior.

Why are none of these angry, “scary” outbursts or violent episodes happening to me? Why am I not getting harassed? I think maybe it’s because I’m direct rather than indirect and avoidant.

What I struggle with is getting men to listen and respect my boundaries when I tell them “no.” I have literally had to yell at them and be pretty brutal to get them to back off. I think the “no means no” goalpost was reasonable and is still necessary to strive for. But this “women can’t say no” narrative is ridiculous.