But how much of your issue was physical rather than psychological? What does “letting go” have to do with anything.

My clitoris was denervated in a surgery performed without my consent. When people say I just need to relax and let go, I want to punch them.

One OB/GYN said I just needed to fall in love. Though she expressed horror at what was done to me, she never told me I could report. When I asked her to tell other patients like me that they can, she said that was none of her business and kicked me out of her office.