I agree. This is so important. But women have the power to change this. Women need to stand up and demand it.

I personally need a vibrator to orgasm. I am also very picky about how I like to be penetrated, and I don’t just think my orgasm is equally important. I think it’s more important because it’s hard for me. I am a bigger pain than you will ever be. And it’s funny how many guys think this is sexy.

In my opinion, there are far more men who take pleasure just watching a woman get off by any means than women who enjoy the same. In my opinion, men love to know they can please a woman. This is painful for me because I have to tell them they never fully will.

And the reason this happened to me isn’t just because of men. It’s because of women. OB/GYN is female dominated. In my experience struggling to change their education, more men have been supportive of making it so doctors learn better vulvar anatomy. Men!!! Though I emailed dozens of female doctors for help, only male doctors helped me with my study.

Men are readily open to recognizing that female orgasm is equally important if we just demand it. And we can easily demand this. You know why? Because men generally want sex more from us than we want it from them. The power is in our hands.

Never in my life have I encountered a man as selfish as you seem to believe men are. The worst case was an ex who was not comfortable with my vibrator. But he did want to eat me out. I unfortunately had to inform him I can’t feel that.

What stands in the way of most men being good lovers is the perception that women are difficult to make orgasm. Often they don’t know what to do. If you tell them what you need, they are happy to do it. In fact, it feeds their egos to know they can.

As for negative bs about women’s vulvas, obviously I’ve been the victim of that. I had my vulva mutilated because I sought surgery to make it “prettier.” But many, of not most, men like meaty labia minora. And contrary to what people are always claiming, there are tons in porn.

But, you know, 20–30% of women have clitoral adhesions, caused by the buildup of smegma. This clearly indicates a lot of women simply have bad hygiene and must smell awful down there.