Lol I do this on app before i even meet them. If I don’t meet them on an app, I’ll tell them on the first date. And I’ll say exactly what I want. Right now I want something temporary but emotional. This is hard because most guys are too all or nothing. I tell them this upfront. It’s super easy to get to the bottom of whether it is a possibility or not.

I’ve had a lot of guys ask me straight-up what I’m looking for. What I’ve noticed is they often have just said, “me too,” which to me implies they were often cool with whatever I wanted. Most guys actually do pretty well with directness. And if they don’t, good riddance — those guys lack balls.

It’s best to be honest and upfront. No relationship is going to go anywhere if you can’t do that with each other.