No it isn’t. In the female terms, you are stereotyping women negatively. Meanwhile, “toxic masculinity” refers only to forms of masculinity that are toxic. This has no reflection on the nature of men, what men are bad or good at, etc. In fact, “toxic masculinity” primarily arises due to social constructs men feel compelled to conform to.

The equivalent to “toxic masculinity” would be “toxic feminity.” Toxic feminity could be about female the passivity you talk about in some of your other writings. But rather than shame women, as if this is in our nature, acknowledge the cultural systems this arises within and acknowledge only well known, irrefutable differences in mean biological characteristics, but only in a way that does not stereotype individuals. For example, women in general are more empathetic. This probably comes with being more sensitive themselves as well, on average. And maybe there is some biological basis to this. But there are also social factors. And both genders benefit from working on the deficits. Also there are plenty of empathetic men.

Maybe you could write more about the qualities you want to see in modern women rather than writing in a way that is fundamentally misogynistic in tone. Write about how you want dating to work. Write how you think things should be. But keep in mind women’s rights to equal opportunities, bodily autonomy, etc. Also maybe throw out any assumptions about what women can and can’t do and just write about what you think an equal world would look like.