Not everyone who experiences what legally (and in prevalence surveys) counts as rape suffers any psychological effects. So in reality, the numbers of people actually suffering any kind of morbidity is much lower. And honestly, I don’t think people who have moved on need to keep bringing it up.

I’ve had to ask myself, “Am I supposed to be more upset about this?” I think probably those who have undergone really violent rapes may obviously be having a harder time. But I wonder how common those are. Most #metoo stories are pretty mild. When I read them, sometimes I just think, “What a pussy.” Then I wonder why I wasn’t affected. I feel like I’ve just had worse things to deal with in life. I don’t have the time or energy to get caught up with the smaller things, as un-PC as that sounds.

I think we can all be a little tougher. Personally, I don’t think healthcare providers should be asking about a history of sexual abuse unless there are associated symptoms. Many people have moved on and won’t want it brought up.