Okay but I’m not choosing casual sex over relationships. I’m choosing casual sex over single celibacy, right? If I’ve decided I can’t be in a relationship, then casual sex seems healthier than celibacy, and I believe this is validated by research. But maybe I need to seriously challenge this idea that I can’t get into a relationship. I’ve always just felt like I should solve my problems on my own before inviting someone else into my life. But this is an idea I have adopted largely from men. Is this standard different for men than for women?

The longer I put off serious dating, I suppose the harder it will be to get settled. This is something I’ve considered lately. But I also watched my grandmother get romanced by several men in her 70s, so I’m not too worried. The main issue is just whether I’ll have time to have kids.