The thing that doesn’t make sense here is our perceptions of our own beauty are pretty irrelevant. What matters is what it can attract. So if it isn’t attracting men who think you are beautiful, then maybe you really aren’t. That’s the point of it. It’s either a useful resource or it isn’t. I didn’t read this article though.

The thing is that men really aren’t that superficial. Men actually seem to place a lot of value in other qualities. I feel like the best looking men are probably the least superficial because they have had virtually unlimited access for the their entire sexual lives. Then again, maybe one thing that makes very attractive men more desirable is how they are less superficial. It seems like the hotter a guy is, the more likely he makes it clear he’s dating you for your personality and intelligence.

Men also have a super low bar for what turns them on. You don’t have to be perfect looking. But then one thing that happens is once you start banging regularly, they get incredibly biased. They might start out thinking you’re an 8, but after you bang for a few months, you’re a 10. My ex said he thought I was plain at first, but then I became “the most beautiful girl in the world.” That’s how it works.

I have never in my life thought I wasn’t hot enough for a guy I’ve actually dated seriously. I always know they think I’m super attractive.