You should talk to her. You’ve done such a good job explaining your feelings here. I think talking to her would be really constructive. I personally have difficulty talking to guys who do this. I’ll just say something like, “Hey what the fuck? Don’t do that again.” Or I’ll just glare angrily and swat at their hand. I don’t think I’d be able to explain all the feelings behind it as well as you have done here, despite the grammatical errors. Sometimes it’s hard for me to even decide if I’m entitled to be upset or if it’s my fault for leading them on.